Self and Desire: To(or Not) Reflect and Be Reflected

I am interested in class discussion on how the self and the other are build and how they are related to desire. The self needs to signify the other signifier to realize its existence and desire is the thing indicate the process of the becoming.

Furthermore, it came to the discussion of various activities valued as the activity of the identification of self and other: being, knowing, throwing, seeing, and reading. The term being seems to relate to the function of the existence; for whose sake the being is. Yet, it is quite debatable to actually answer what the being is used for. In my opinion, there is a possibility to use the being, both the self and the other, for more than one sake. When the being is used for other, in the very same time the self and within itself can use it as well.

Seeing has , maybe, the special dimension to be talked about for me since it relates to the issue about subject, object, and abject. As in the class discussion las week, there is a problem if one tries to defining those three terms. I am aware that many of us define which one is subject or object based on whether the being is passive or active because that was what most of the teacher in high school would explained on those matters. Nonetheless, the passive or active become "useless" when the subject of the law is the passive side, the one with law's authority within him/herself--I realize that mentioning "authority" will cause more problem--.

In Lacan's essay on mirror stage, I note the stage consist of the act of reflection. In order to build the whole body, as a self, the fragmented body must own desire: it might be the desire to observe the image, observe the reflection. The becoming self, because it is neither the whole nor the fragmented one, needs to find reflection of itself or of other in order to integrated its fragmented knowledge become whole. Lacan explains gonad of the female pigeon maturation and the migratory of the locust to show that " by placing the individual within reach of the field of reflection of mirror" or "exposing individual , at a certain stage, to the exclusively visual action of similar image" will help the becoming process of the self.

However, it seems to be this integrated-fragmented-body, the integrated body that used to be fragmented, still emerging in the self somehow and being repaired in the process of the dreaming. This integrated body finds its freedom as fragment only in the dream. Maybe that is we can form anything in our dream because we can separate each fragment of us to be whatever it is without worrying to reflect it in another form or to be reflected by any forms. Is this fragmented body is the abject eventually?